For every habit you have, for every experience you go through, for every pattern you repeat, there’s obviously a need for it. If you didn’t have the need for it, you wouldn’t have it. There’s something within people who need to be fat, to have poor relationships, to have failures, to smoke the cigarette, drink the alcohol, or have the anger, etc. All of these things are merely symptoms. There is no point in working on the symptom without working on the root cause. When you’re willing to release the need for whatever symptom you may have, then it will go away. Criticizing yourself does nothing but make the problem worse. Self-worth is the answer to most all problems. Look in the mirror and say, “There’s nobody like me. I’m going to start today being who I really am.” There is a great need in everyone to be themselves and to let their flower bloom.
Louise L. Hay